In my last post I mentioned friendships and their ability to keep us feeling young. In an effort to cover all the bases on that I shall add that pets and plants can be great friends too. I prefer the plant based friend, they aren't as messy but still require a bit of maintenance. Enough said.
Moving along. Other relationships - this for me would be the male/female type since I don't have and exclusive dating relationship. This is really my round about way of bringing up the subject of sex and it's youthful qualities. I truly believe that an active sex life keeps people young, happy and physically fit. The problem comes in finding a partner, this goes for married couples also. Almost every magazine that comes into the salon, covers some article on sex: how to do it better, how it flattens your abs, how to tell him what you want, yadda, yadda, yadda.
For my On the Road to 50 purposes I'm interested in the youthful and flat abs aspects. Emotional well-being would only be available if it was a long-term, monogomous realtionship. Well, I suppose I could live with myself and be emotionally OK if I had a different partner every week, but it wouldn't be my preference. Now we get into the moral and wellness aspects of having a happy sex life. Is it right/wrong to have sex without marriage? How dangerous is having multiple partners? ( I know the answer to that one, just throwing it out to remind everyone.) If your significant other no longer wants to have sex with you, do you have any "correct" options? And lest you think you get the same youth building response from other devices, you are wrong.
Have Sex and Stay Young "There are physiological factors too," said Dr Weeks. "Sex is the most intense kind of pleasure and that triggers certain chemicals. In women it produces a human growth hormone which helps the process." Regular, loving sex came second to physical and mental activity as the factors most important to retaining youth.
I am not providing any answers here, just giving points to ponder. If you are in a relationship that doesn't provide you with an happy sex life,I suggest you start doing some work on yourself and that relationship. This is an important part of traveling down that road to 50 or any other age for that matter.
Thursday, April 29, 2010
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Friendships
I have always considered myself a friendly person however I have never felt like I have deep friendships, at least not the two way kind of friends: I'm a good giver, not that great at receiving. The reality of life is I'm kind of a loner and I like it that way. As I grow older, I feel like I should have some long, term wonderful friend that I can call up in the middle of the night, travel with or go out puppy hunting with. (Puppy hunting - what Cougars do when they are out looking for prey.) Reflecting upon this delema I realize that I really have a lot of friends, we just don't hang out together. Every day I see clients whom I have shared a relationship with for over seven years. I ask about their kids, spouses and careers and they remember to ask about my kids, dating life and remodeling projects. It is these relationships that keep me young and vibrant and yet I took them for granted as if they did not even exist. Go figure!
I truly believe that one of the secrets of aging gracefully is having good friendships and people to share with. I still want that "call in the middle of the night friend" but maybe I'll get lucking and wake up and find him next to me some day. LOL!
Here's to good friends, tonight is kind of special.....
I truly believe that one of the secrets of aging gracefully is having good friendships and people to share with. I still want that "call in the middle of the night friend" but maybe I'll get lucking and wake up and find him next to me some day. LOL!
Here's to good friends, tonight is kind of special.....
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